Part 2 - Teen Talk: Supporting Friends Through Substance Challenges - Recognizing When and How to Step In
Part 2: Recognizing When and How to Step In
Realizing that a friend might be struggling with vaping, drinking, or drug use can feel overwhelming, but knowing when and how to address the issue is crucial. Teens often hesitate to step in because they fear ruining the friendship or being met with anger or denial. However, approaching the situation with care and preparedness can make a meaningful difference.
Recognizing the Warning Signs
Before starting a conversation, it’s important to understand what behaviors might indicate a substance use problem. Some common signs include:
Sudden changes in behavior or personality, such as irritability, withdrawal, moodiness, increased anxiety, or apathy.
Decline in academic performance or loss of interest in activities they once enjoyed, or neglecting other responsibilities.
Frequent secrecy, lying, or unexplained absences.
Physical signs like bloodshot eyes, unusual smells, poor hygiene, or sudden changes in weight.
Hanging out with a new, risky crowd or engaging in dangerous activities such as driving intoxicated or making reckless decisions.
Escalating substance use, more frequently or in larger amounts. This can indicate growing dependence.
Being observant and noting patterns over time can help confirm your concerns, but avoid jumping to conclusions without sufficient context.
How to Approach the Conversation
Timing and tone are everything when addressing a sensitive topic like substance use. Here are some key steps to consider:
Choose the Right Time: Pick a calm and private setting where both of you have time to talk without interruptions or distractions.
Express Care, Not Judgment: Focus on your concern for their well-being. Start with statements like, “I care about you, and I’ve been worried about some things I’ve noticed.”
Be Specific: Mention specific behaviors you’ve observed, such as, “I’ve noticed you’ve been skipping soccer practice lately, and you seem really down.”
Listen Without Interruption: Give them space to respond and share their perspective. Avoid interrupting or rushing to offer solutions.
Encouraging Positive Change
Suggest Healthy Alternatives: Encourage hobbies, exercise, or social activities that don’t involve substances.
Be Patient: Change takes time, and they may not be ready to acknowledge the problem immediately.
Stay Consistent: Continue checking in and offering support, even if they initially resist.
Practical Tips for Teens
Avoid accusatory language, like “You’re always…” or “Why can’t you just stop?”
Practice what you want to say beforehand to feel more confident.
Bring a resource or suggestion, such as information about a school counselor or support hotline, to offer as a starting point for getting help.
Understand that their initial reaction might not be positive; sometimes people need time to process what you’ve said.
By recognizing the signs and approaching the conversation thoughtfully, you can create a safe space where your friend feels supported rather than judged. This is an important step toward helping them consider healthier choices.
For more information, help, and resources, please visit www.steeredstraight.org or call (856) 691-6676
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